So I have to give credit to my husband for this post. When we talk about relationships he always says its important for a woman to know how to treat her man and I agree with him 100%. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to be able to give your man the things he needs in order to feel loved by you. It’s funny because I always knew of these things, but some of them I didn’t understand the importance of until we went to marriage counseling. I just swore what my husband was asking for was ridiculous until I heard some of the same things from the pastor in those sessions. It was then when I realized “I guess I better start doing that before he decides to leave me” (which he would never do, I mean look at me, he would have to be a fool to leave me; Lol J/K). But seriously these 8 things that I am about to discuss are important to implement in your relationship so take notes.
This has to be the biggest element in a relationship. Men need to be able to trust their girl. If they don’t, it’s basically downhill from there. I mean sure there is a possibility you can gain your man’s trust back if you broke it but it’s not going to be easy. They love to hear honesty and once they feel like you are hiding something from them it’s a major turn off.
Kendrick Lamar said it best, “Loyalty, Loyalty, Loyalty”. Now I had to list this one right after honesty because they tend to go hand in hand. You can’t have loyalty without honesty and vice versa. Your man wants to feel that no matter what you will always be by his side. That you will never turn on him and never leave him when things get rough. He wants to know, that at the end of the day, no matter what he’s going through you will be there to catch him if he falls. And the biggest thing is you will NEVER switch up.
If your man wants to try something new, support him. If your man wants to pursue his dreams, support him. If your man wants to face his fears, support him. Whatever it is make sure you always support your man. No man wants a woman that doesn’t believe in him or is always negative about his ideas and passion. All that will do is push him away and right into the arms of the next female who is supportive. So listen to me when I say, even if you don’t understand your man’s vision or you don’t agree with it 100% you make sure you support him no matter what. You need to be his number one fan.
Appreciation and Respect.
Men love when you stroke their ego. Showing and telling them that you appreciate the things they do for you or simply having them in your life will definitely give you brownie points in their book. Men love to feel wanted by their girl. Which is one of the reasons why you have to show respect to your man. I know this probably sounds like a given, but you’ll be surprised how many women forget to do this. No man wants to ever feel insulted or that you’re attacking his masculinity. That’s why it’s important to let your man be the man in a relationship. I know this can be extremely hard for the Alpha female, but hunnie, you have to learn how to take a back seat sometimes and let your man take over.
Men love surprises from their woman. So every once in a while step up and plan a date night. Take him out. Pay for the meal. Do something he would love to do. I’m not a big football fan, but one time I decided to surprise my hubby and take him to an Eagles game since that is his favorite team. Do little things that you know he likes, that you don’t often do, to show him you love and care about him and that you actually have some interest in the things HE likes.
After you treat your man to a date night, why not end it with a little night cap. I know, it sounds cliché, but men need sex. I repeat, men need sex. Most men love the physical attraction they share with their significant other. And most need it in order for their relationship to grow. You’ll be surprised how many marriages fail because of the lack of intimacy. It’s important to make sure you take time out for your man. Don’t get so caught up in life with work and the kids that you forget to be intimate with your man. Also, here’s another hint. Men love it when YOU initiate the sex.
Peace and Quiet
Now this last one may only pertain to the married couples or even the couples that have lived together for some time. I honestly thought my husband was being extra when he would say that he wanted some “down time” every day when he came home. When he walked in the door he wanted to be able to relax on the couch unbothered for a good half hour. When he first said that to me I wasn’t the most receptive. It wasn’t until we went to a marriage workshop and I heard the pastor and other men mentioning they need the same thing after coming home from a long day of work. If your man claims he needs some quiet time to himself to unwind after a long day at work, give it to him. Trust me, he will be more receptive to what you want from him after having that time to himself.
Now keep in mind we are all different and have different opinions and beliefs. With that being said, not every man is the same and may have different preferences. But from my experience and what I have seen most men prefer it not all at least most of these things. So discuss these tips with your man and see if he agrees. If not then discuss the things he does need from you and do that. I’m sure your life will be so much easier and your relationship will grow stronger.